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Brick wall moments – dealing with stubborn aging parents

Brick wall moments – dealing with stubborn aging parents

Are you a caregiver for your aging parents? At the very least, are you concerned about them as they age? Wouldn’t it be lovely to help your parents without any objections?

As if!  What if you have stubborn aging parents?

When talking with your parents about aging issues and suggesting help for them you will most likely have many “brick wall moments.” This is when a reasonable suggestion or a suggestion made from a place of love is met with strenuous resistance, to put it mildly.

Either the parent puts up a brick wall and won’t entertain the idea. Or you will want to hit your head against a brick wall in frustration. Oftentimes, both are true.

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Do I need an estate planning or an elder law attorney?

Do I need an estate planning or an elder law attorney?

Estate planning is such a misnomer.

First of all, people mistakenly think estate planning is only for the rich. For example, you must have an ‘estate’ first to worry about planning for it.

Secondly, it has less to do with your ‘estate’ and more to do with protecting your family. If you are incapacitated or die, who will care for your loved ones?

It really should be called “family planning” because attorneys help you care for your family for when you are not there. Although “family planning” means something else entirely!

As if estate planning isn’t confusing enough – now when you look for a lawyer, you see many different titles: estate planning or elder law attorney. Even probate lawyer. Which is better for you? Do you need an estate planning or elder law attorney or a probate lawyer?

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Help parents downsize and keep the peace – 6 tips

Help parents downsize and keep the peace – 6 tips

Want to help your aging parents downsize in preparation for a move? Tread carefully!

Recognize that this is an emotional time for them.  Your parents have spent a lifetime accumulating possessions so it may be hard for them to be objective. Be sensitive to their feeling and try not to be pushy. The whole process may take longer than you like. Unless you have a certain deadline such as a house sale, try to follow their timetable for getting rid of items.

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How to talk to aging parents  –  tips for a family meeting

How to talk to aging parents – tips for a family meeting

Getting together with family, especially during the holidays, is a great opportunity to catch up with your parents. As your parents age, you and your siblings may want to talk with them about any health concerns and their future plans.

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